Everyone struggles with self-confidence at some point in their life. Maybe it’s temporary doubts, or something in life has taught you to be down on yourself. Perhaps you’ve gotten into the habit of neglecting your self-care, maybe you’re afraid to show your true self to the world, or your positive body image is suffering as a result of bad media.

It’s okay.

Everyone struggles with some form of this, in their own way.

In the pole dancing community, you’ll find that not only is everyone incredibly supportive, but it doesn’t matter who you are or what your background is to find support.

Pole dancing can help facilitate self-love and confidence – even in things you didn’t think you could feel confidence in!

Maybe you never thought you could dance exotic and feel sexy. To that, we say: go take an exotic class (and stick with it for a few months!)

Maybe you never thought you could power through strength moves like a beast. To that, we say go take a pole tricks class and work on your weakest moves!

You (and your body) are capable of these amazing things. It just takes a little time.

How Can Pole Dancing Help Me?

Pole dancing can help in several ways. That’s part of the journey of a pole dancer – fulfilling self-care, finding body confidence, and self-love for who you are right now.

Pole dancing…

  1. Can help you feel sexy
  2. Makes you feel eager and excited to work out
  3. Helps you shoot for, and reach, your goals
  4. Learn to love your body no matter what
  5. Feel great knowing how far you’ve come and how far you will go


Here are a few ways you can give yourself a little mental power boost on days when you need it:


Power Pose

Ever notice that when you stand straight and tall, chin up, and hands on your hips – or out wide, taking up as much space as possible – you feel better afterwards? There’s some interesting research on these power poses.

While the science behind it has been deemed controversial, it works for many people; especially people who are prone to keeping themselves “closed in” with their arms folded, or who tend to make their posture smaller. Give it a try for 30 seconds and see how you feel.

Eating Healthy

No, we know a salad won’t magically fix your problems, but it will make you feel better. Go all out with lots of fruits and veggies. Cut the bread and the carbs and opt for healthy fats and oils instead.

Eating certain processed foods can literally make you feel (emotionally) worse.

A light, nutritious meal is sure to make your body feel a little happier, and with that, you’ll feel a little happier during the day.

Drinking Lots of Water

Water is great for the body and how much you drink can affect your mood, your muscle’s flexibility, and your body’s overall function.

Try starting your day with a glass of water. If you have trouble remembering, set a timer on your phone or fitness band to help.

If you don’t like the taste, don’t immediately opt for artificial flavoring – try different types of water!

Taking More Naps

Napping makes your brain happier, helps you feel more alert, remember new things, and is overall healthy for brain function.

Next time you’re feeling down, set a small timer and nap for 20-30 minutes – but no longer than that.

Accomplishing Something Meaningful

Maybe it’s your true-grip Ayesha… or maybe it has nothing to do with pole at all.

Accomplishing something that is meaningful to you will help boost your mood and make you feel good about your day.

If you really want to set goals, aim to accomplish at least one meaningful thing every day.

Video Yourself

Video and image evidence is key! Always give yourself something to look back on, like when you tried to ace a trick and it didn’t go well – then take a picture when you finally ace it!

You made that progress, and it’s documented.

You’ll also be able to physically see how far you’ve come in pole dancing, how your form has changed, and what your body is capable of.


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2, businessinsider.com: These Foods Are Scientifically Proven to Put You In a Bad Mood, retrieved from https://www.businessinsider.com/these-foods-are-scientifically-proven-to-put-you-in-a-bad-mood-2018-5
3, PLOS One: Effects of Changes in Water Intake on Mood of High and Low Drinkers, retrieved from https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3984246/
4, J Sleep Research: Benefits of Napping in Healthy Adults: Impact In Nap Length, Time of Day, Age, and Experience with Napping, retrieved from https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/19645971